Work-Life Balance Isn’t Overrated After all.

work-life-balance

I spent 4 and a half years of my adult life working for a company where everything was urgent by default. Every damn thing was always urgent. Clients were always waiting for every release. It’s almost felt like the clients would die if I didn’t deploy a particular feature. I became worn out. I joined the company as a Systems Analyst but I worked in three other roles: Programme Manager, Quality Assurance Analyst, and Business Analyst.

At a particular time, if I slept I’d dream about work [No, I’m not kidding. It was as bad as that.]Clients would call at night asking how far with the feature I promised to deploy.
Almost two and half years into the job, I started having sharp pains at the back of my head. I didn’t know what was wrong. When it started happening frequently, I told a friend Temitope, who emphasised its seriousness and urged me to see a doctor. I went to the doctor and lo and behold! My blood pressure was high. It was 148/100.

Heck! I was just 25 years old. I couldn’t tell my Mum. The doctor gave me a sick note for the rest of the week. Silly me, I still went back and continued working. Then I started googling high blood pressure and it hit me. I was in trouble. I might end up having a stroke at 25! That moment, I went to tell the manager that I was going home for the rest of the week. I handed over to her and left.

I had to rethink what was the most important thing to me. While my job was very important to me, I realised I wasn’t doing myself any good: in fact, I was killing myself. I was working from 6.30 a.m to 8.30 p.m – 9.00p.m almost every day. I realized that I was not doing myself, my career or my family any good by not having work-life balance.
I wasn’t going out much and when I did, I always thought of work. I stayed indoors most weekends just because I had to rest always.

Not having a work-life balance wore me out quickly. I’m sure I looked way older than my age. I loved my job, was very passionate about it but I worked round the clock. This always left me too drained to do anything else. I started resenting my job. I became very tired. A lot of people had expectations and they didn’t care if I slept in the office every day to meet those expectations.
I didn’t have a persona outside of work. At a particular time, my whole life was centred around work. Most of my friends were also my work colleagues. We would go out together and I even lived with one of them at a time. Keeping in touch with friends outside work seemed like a lot of HARD work.
In the last year, I didn’t even have time for my daughter. I always left the house around 5.30 a.m and won’t get back till about 8 p.m, sometimes 10, 11 p.m if I worked late. I knew something had to be done.

I can categorically say a lot of Nigerians do not have work-life balance especially those working on the Island in Lagos. Work-Life balance is needed so that you can work on your personal business, goals, and dreams. If you don’t have work-life balance you won’t have time to work on your goals and dreams. Who knew I would ever start blogging?
Right now, I have a great work-life balance. I leave work at 5.30 p.m, pick up my daughter from her minder’s and we are home before 7 p.m. We have dinner and have fun till we sleep. I write my blog post for the next day.

Bottom line

  • Stop taking work home. Leave work at work!
  • Your weekend are your off days. Go out and have fun
  • Don’t give client/customers your mobile number. They should call your extension at work during work hours.
  • Create time for you passions, goals and dreams.
  • Prioritize your tasks at work using a to-do list.
  • Go out more with your friends

Do you want to share your story about work-life balance?
Please email me lush@lushmoments.com or comment below.

Thanks for reading.
xoxo….. Lush

Written by Lush

I'm Faderera aka Lush. I've been called Lush since my Uni days by my friends. I'm new to blogging. I love writing about Life, Love, Relationships and Marriage. I have a degree in Business Information Technology. I currently work as a Test Lead for a Software House. I'm married and I have a daughter. I often call her #MyYumYum

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