Get in here, ladies! This is for the career woman who’s married with kids and struggling to balance her marriage and her job. Kudos to you because it is not the easiest thing to do.
But wait! There is always a beautiful opportunity to spice up your marriage and get your groove back, you just need to jump on it. You’ll be fulfilled, your husband will be satisfied and everyone will be happy so this is worth the try. You seek after bettering the bond between you and your husband, you crave for more of his attention and the only reason why you don’t have any of these is because you both are out making money, especially you. Here are a few suggestions on how to create unforgettable memories:
Plan a surprise date night: Yes, you might argue that it’s his responsibility to take you on a special date night but the question is: who set those rules? You know where the shoe pinches and its your marriage that is at stake here so drop the cliche and get on that restaurant’s website to complete that table booking. Drop your kids off at your mum’s that night or get a nanny to mind them while you’re away. Consider picking a restaurant not too far from home so you can get in before midnight and safe too. And please, ensure you do not talk about work challenges, traffic, celebrities or even your kids. Talk about both of you, remind him how you met and your some of your best memories. He’ll get the message that you’re actually making an effort and will take it up from there. That’s what a good man does.
Spend alone time in your home: This is not too far off from the first point as you’ll be needing your privacy so the kids will have to go play at their cousin’s or grandparents’. This will work perfectly on a Saturday so both of you can get to stay longer in bed, have breakfast in bed and just get to warm up to each other. You have the whole day to iron out your concerns, talk about it and you make sure you come to a consensus that is favourable to your marriage and your job. This is a means of getting him to understand the situation better and reassuring him of your loyalty. It’s also the time to enjoy companionship, good lovemaking and ultimately, renew the bond.
Go on a vacation: Suggest to him about taking time off to go to a not-too-far destination. The feeling of a fresh environment will do you both a great deal of good, you will try new food together, have sex in a bed that’s not your everyday bed, both of you will misbehave in public without fear of your neighbour or colleague watching, the PDA will be seamless and genuine, be rest assured that you will feel like young lovers again and long after the vacation is over, you will still gush just by the thoughts of the experience.
Invest in getting him a gorgeous gift: I assume that your busy lifestyle has not permitted you to do this in such a long time that it has begun to feel awkward. Here’s an opportunity to redeem yourself. And the best thing? Buy a “his and hers” type of gift to pass a message across to him that you’re sincerely trying to bond.
Pray together: This is where you will find healing and everything else you’ll need in your marriage. There’s no need instructing you on how it should be done. Just let yourself be guided by God and you will find the joy that you truly deserve.
Darlings, please share your thoughts on my recommendations and add yours too. Love you all.